By Sandeep Datta
Attitude is all that matters in one’s life. This is what the life has taught me .And, undoubtedly , I followed it like a lesson learnt by heart. Born in a middle class Brahmin family. I went through all that what others feel uncomfortable in.
The shortest boy of every queue and the thinnest one among all the sportsmen of the school. Inexplicable is all that what one suffers when even family proves ignorant to appreciate the child for encouragement.
The youngest one of the five, one brother and three sisters and the last one,me, I learnt what outside world taught me by inflicting injuries upon me.
But, thanks to the sports that taught me the most important lesson of life, “It’s one’s attitude that determines one’s success but not others opinion”.
While winning many events, mentioned like Badminton, Kabbaddi, Kho,Martial Arts at zonal and state levels I developed the killer’s attitude of ‘making things possible’.But, despite getting admitted in a prestigious college(Ramjas College) of Delhi, by defeating 29 state and national level players, I had to quit. The reason was nothing but simply the parents’ disliking for sports.
Actually,my first failure, in twelfth grade of school, transformed me completely. Making me too much serious about studies instead of sports. Surely, this was the U turn of my life.
But, voices were raised to the extent of depriving me of further studies. Fortunately, by the next year, I proved them wrong ,securing first division. Anyhow, the enraged family had to cool down a little.
But, unfortunately,during graduation, despite trying hard I couldn’t perform well and resulted miserably.The reason was nothing but intense pressure of family and relatives.Over expectations do create agonising pressure. I think every parent needs too learn.
Otherwise,despite striving so devotedly, daily for almost eight to ten hours I passed on margin. Does anyone know why? Psychologist call it nervousness. But do the parents know what leads to this situation where one turns so unconfident about one’s ability that he sometimes even looses his mental balance too.
It is not a bluff, but, the reality, in which every year thousands of students struggle. But, who cares ? Ultimately, the bad results in exams provide upper hand to the parents to curse the child,everytime. Isn’t it?But, parents need to realize their mistakes too.
Usually this ‘attention’ is not always because parents care for their children ,but, their own prestige is at stake in society. What a shameful thing it is if a, innocent student is put under so much intense pressure that he starts misunderstanding the exams’ result as the end of life.Though, it is a false impression about exams.
Examinations are held to evaluate the knowledge acquired by students in classes. But, in no way, to scare them to them extent of committing suicide, sometimes.
Therefore, by restricting my unimpressive studies, it was suggested, to put me in our small family business. But, despite bowing in front of family’s order I continued studying along with it through public library books. For Three long years I cherished the fifty paise membership and studied a lot on human behavior. This was the study which actually inspired me to join journalism.
After so much reluctance from my family towards my continuation of studies ,at last, I was allowed to study,but, on my own expense. Friends kept lending me money for my fees. And, I managed to afford because of their timely helps. And, for almost half a dozen diplomas that I did, I had to pay back by my little pocket money.
But,very hard is to mention the reasons for which I was not financed by my own family for pursuing studies.
May be their ignorance, towards the professional training’s importance or the envy of my own elder brother, is the reason. I can’t say ,or perhaps, don’t want to. That’s why, despite being a topper thrice in notable insititutes , none of my family member knows my level of education ,till date. The reason, I can’t explain.
Unfortunately, I lost my father because of heart-attack this year, in the month of June,but my passion remained intact.
And , today, confronting so many obstacles of life that ‘hopeless’ child of government school could attain this much knowledge, today.
No matter how many obstructions came my way but I preferred confronting them boldly. It is because of that determined attitude to succeed in life that I could become a Freelancewriter and Radio presenter in All India Radio.
Attitude is all that matters in one’s life. This is what the life has taught me .And, undoubtedly , I followed it like a lesson learnt by heart. Born in a middle class Brahmin family. I went through all that what others feel uncomfortable in.
The shortest boy of every queue and the thinnest one among all the sportsmen of the school. Inexplicable is all that what one suffers when even family proves ignorant to appreciate the child for encouragement.
The youngest one of the five, one brother and three sisters and the last one,me, I learnt what outside world taught me by inflicting injuries upon me.
But, thanks to the sports that taught me the most important lesson of life, “It’s one’s attitude that determines one’s success but not others opinion”.
While winning many events, mentioned like Badminton, Kabbaddi, Kho,Martial Arts at zonal and state levels I developed the killer’s attitude of ‘making things possible’.But, despite getting admitted in a prestigious college(Ramjas College) of Delhi, by defeating 29 state and national level players, I had to quit. The reason was nothing but simply the parents’ disliking for sports.
Actually,my first failure, in twelfth grade of school, transformed me completely. Making me too much serious about studies instead of sports. Surely, this was the U turn of my life.
But, voices were raised to the extent of depriving me of further studies. Fortunately, by the next year, I proved them wrong ,securing first division. Anyhow, the enraged family had to cool down a little.
But, unfortunately,during graduation, despite trying hard I couldn’t perform well and resulted miserably.The reason was nothing but intense pressure of family and relatives.Over expectations do create agonising pressure. I think every parent needs too learn.
Otherwise,despite striving so devotedly, daily for almost eight to ten hours I passed on margin. Does anyone know why? Psychologist call it nervousness. But do the parents know what leads to this situation where one turns so unconfident about one’s ability that he sometimes even looses his mental balance too.
It is not a bluff, but, the reality, in which every year thousands of students struggle. But, who cares ? Ultimately, the bad results in exams provide upper hand to the parents to curse the child,everytime. Isn’t it?But, parents need to realize their mistakes too.
Usually this ‘attention’ is not always because parents care for their children ,but, their own prestige is at stake in society. What a shameful thing it is if a, innocent student is put under so much intense pressure that he starts misunderstanding the exams’ result as the end of life.Though, it is a false impression about exams.
Examinations are held to evaluate the knowledge acquired by students in classes. But, in no way, to scare them to them extent of committing suicide, sometimes.
Therefore, by restricting my unimpressive studies, it was suggested, to put me in our small family business. But, despite bowing in front of family’s order I continued studying along with it through public library books. For Three long years I cherished the fifty paise membership and studied a lot on human behavior. This was the study which actually inspired me to join journalism.
After so much reluctance from my family towards my continuation of studies ,at last, I was allowed to study,but, on my own expense. Friends kept lending me money for my fees. And, I managed to afford because of their timely helps. And, for almost half a dozen diplomas that I did, I had to pay back by my little pocket money.
But,very hard is to mention the reasons for which I was not financed by my own family for pursuing studies.
May be their ignorance, towards the professional training’s importance or the envy of my own elder brother, is the reason. I can’t say ,or perhaps, don’t want to. That’s why, despite being a topper thrice in notable insititutes , none of my family member knows my level of education ,till date. The reason, I can’t explain.
Unfortunately, I lost my father because of heart-attack this year, in the month of June,but my passion remained intact.
And , today, confronting so many obstacles of life that ‘hopeless’ child of government school could attain this much knowledge, today.
No matter how many obstructions came my way but I preferred confronting them boldly. It is because of that determined attitude to succeed in life that I could become a Freelancewriter and Radio presenter in All India Radio.
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