Nine truths of my life, which I should remember always

Life teaches every person many lessons in life. They have their own significance, as they come along with the passage of time and learnt after major happenings in one’s life.

Many people say it is the bitter experiences, which teach us the best lessons about how to carry on in life. I think this holds true.

These lessons are capable of enabling us to rise or improve in the days to come or at the least prevent us from committing the blunders the next time.

Provided, we think over WHERE we went wrong and WHY, as a habit. If we could find out these things in others’ mistakes or wrongful acts too, there is nothing better than this to multiply our chances of improvement and progress in personal or professional life.

My life has so far taught me nine major lessons. First, I shouldn't laugh at others' failures or at weak points.....as it reverts to me very bitterly in a few days.

Second, I shouldn't say NO to anything, as I have to ulitmately do it. The
recent example was the sports stories. The more I shirked from them,
the more I was pushed by circumstances and dirty politics to do it on
my own.

Third, I have learnt not to depend on any ONE person for too long. It turns
my crutches and I am made helpless by that person very soon.
Ultimately , I suffer a lot and add to my set of wounds which take
years to get fulfilled. Self reliance suits me the best.

Fourth, I must follow my intuition, as it has always given me success. Whenever I have revealed my plans or approach to anyone abot any goal, they have met with failure. So it's of no use telling to anyone how I
believe or plan to do something in the days to come. The more I keep
things to myself, the better chances I have in delivering surprising
results.

Fifth, there are some things which are beyond sincerity or work. It just happens due to well wishers’ prayers. Though things have never taken place for me on their own or by sheer luck, but the magic of prayers by our loved ones have remarkable impact. I learnt it during my marriage, the biggest challenging assignment for me. It couldn’t have been possible without my most loved persons—Rajesh, Anjali, Lakshmi, and sister Latta and Dinesh jijaji and of course my mother and sister Chanchal.

Sixth, secretly carried out hard work pays me well. I have always made extra endeavour, in complete secrecy, to make things happen in life. If this has been a reality, I should do work instead of talking about it before others.

Seventh, I shouldn't show off or boast about my abilities......it makes me look quite stupid who believes in going ga-ga about himself in full public
view. It only causes others to think so low of me, contrary to my
general image that prevails.

I shouldn't go public in announcing my success or victory in anything
before it actually happens for others to see.

Eighth, remaining futuristic or planning much ahead of the doom's day helps me tremendously.

Ninth, I must return others' obligations or helpful acts and favours properly with deep sense of actual gratitude. Seeking anyone's favour without returning it at the earliest or in the due course of time, makes us weak and risk our pride in life.

Jinhe Naaz Nahin Hind par…..wo Akhir Kyon Yahan Hain


It was Oct.14, the final day of competitions in New Delhi during India's biggest sporting extravaganza since Asiad in 1982. Indian ace shuttler Saina Nehwal was contesting in the final match of Women's singles against her Chinese counterpart.

It was a nerve-wracking match in which she managed to pull victory from the jaws of failure after a three set hard-fought match.

It earned her the Gold medal and also saved India from getting pushed to third position in the overall medal tally at the Commonwealth Games.

Soon, there was medal distribution ceremony and as per the norm, the national anthem of the Gold Medallist was played as mark of respect to the ultimate winner of the event.

We were in office and doing our work. But Saina's match had drawn everyone's attention. So everyone was just taking his or her time out to take not of the latest score to know in advance whether India's biggest badmintor star Saina Nehwal will be able to do India proud or just let everyone face embarrassment like they did in hockey in which India lost 0-8 to World Champion Australia.

As soon as the match finished and Saina was declared winner, all of us waited with great enthusiasm to watch her being presented the Gold Medal and after that see our national flag--the Tricolour--going high with the patriotic tune of national anthem being played alongside. It gives a high feeling in every Indian's mind, as the words or even tune of the national anthem evoked very deep respect and feeling of pride on our motherland and the country.


The moment the national anthem's tune was played me and all others stood of with great joy and deep respect for our national anthem being the proud citizens of this country. The moment it was over, we sat down in our seats. However, one of my women colleagues pointed out to a person sitting in her corresponding chair and below the TV set to stand up for the national anthem. We all that she was reminding her as he may have skipped to take note of the anthem going on due to office work or something. She repeated herself in asking Waseem, a Kashmiri guy, to stand up.

But she was replied by ...with ..."kyon..(why)"?. But as she persisted he stood up in a disrespectful way as if he was alien to the way one has to stand up in attention with palms placed firmly on the sides of the thighs. And, we all were surprised after all what was wrong with him? Why he didn't stand up immediately and he did he was pretending as if he was standing to look at some dance show in a very relaxing way? We all noticed it in disgust and many questions in our minds.

Suddenly, another voice from a distance was heard telling another questioner having same grudge after watching not stand up during national anthem. That person, aged in mid forties, said: Why should I stand after all? After all I am Kashmiri!!

All of us were shocked. We soon understood that two bastards were sitting among us under a roof that swears by the spirit of nationalism and patriotism every minute of the day.

I noticed a Meghalaya girl siting next to me, called Diane, was already sitting in her chair during the playing of the national anthem and was smiling at me. But after noticing those two Kashmiris, I had also understood her reason of smiling at me, as I was standing during the national anthem just like rest of the office colleagues, except these three strangers. Meghalaya is in northeast of India and Kashmir is in the north part of India.

Both the places are supplied millions of rupees every month for the welfare of their natives and all being protected for their lives by the Indian Army under the constitutionof India as they are citizens of India.

We all realised that we had three highly deplorable and anti-India persons sitting with us in hiding. They had disrespect for our national anthem and the tricolour, a fact highly objectionable and provocative to any proud citizen of India.

Many thoughts came across in my mind in their condemnation and for once I felt like going to them and thrashing and do not shy even from throwing any one of them from the third storey of our building, if required by circumstances during the argument or quarrel.

I thought what should Indians do with such individuals who are eating from our share of platter, enjoying every facility of this country as refugees or so called citizen of the country and still nurture such hatred for our nationalism.

As a proud citizen of this country who hold highest respect for this motherland and the tricolour, I felt such people should be taken in the middle of the crossroad, stripped down with their face blackened and head half-shaved and genitals slashed, and electricity current being passed through their body to allow it to shake till it turns motionless.

Indians are stupid, if they are allowing such persons' stay in this country and letting them go on show disrespect to our national symbols despite earning their bread and butter and running to our motherland for safety of themselves and their women and children in distressful times. The Indian Constitution should be amended to allow public punishment of such disgusting, son of swine and motherfucker persons.