You Can Get A True Lover?

By Sandeep Datta, April 18 , 2006

Most of us long to find someone special who loves us in true sense. But find it a Hurculean task to locate anyone out of the huge crowd spread across world.

“I wish I had someone to express my love to”--Most of us nurture this feeling deep inside the hearts each morning, but fail to say it to the person it matters the most. At times we blame our luck or lose the option available in search for 'someone better'.

We can blame it on psychology or the intrinsic greed to get fascinated or long for someone completely unknown. But it doesn't appar to us that we have entrapped ourselves in reveries. Life may not be a plot of a novella but we usually keep on dreaming to find someone smiliar to a character read or watched on the big/small screen.

We expect someone unseen or unheard of, as is shown in almost every other Bollywood movie.But should we allow the naive feelings to contiue till our desire turns into a nightmare of lifetime? The problem is not just about finding a lover but also life partner. The feeling, the desire and the expectation remains almost the same.

Shouldn't we try to figure out that person in a calm and composed fashion through our daily life?. Well, it may appear credulous accepting this fact but the best like-minded, loving and loyal person lives very much near to our sight.

When lyricist Sahir Ludhiyanwi wrote the immortal song of the film Kabhi Kabhi, he would have never intended others to live in reveries and repent for an unfulfilled romantic dream. But most of us do so without realizing the person we long for is usually around.

We just need to learn how to recognize him or her. It may take a few mintue but try closing your eyes and recalling that face (like Aamir Khan asks Priety Zinta in Bollywood's "Dil Chahta Hai") which keeps us cheerful in daily life off and on. Just trying recalling those loving individuals who leave their indelible mark on our hearts due to their selfless role in our life.

Interestingly, most of us long for the best choice on earth but never realise the love is never about possessing someone for a momentary pleasure. It is about according the sincere appreciation, affection and respect for other individual’s presence in our lives.

To many individuals it may sound an unfair way of enjoying love. But that's what it is in reality. Otherwise, what’s the beauty of one’s love if it doesn’t evolve an urge to sacrifice the best pleasure just for someone’s sake?Or, is it simply a convenient medium to cover up one’s lustful desire?

Love is far bigger concept than possessing someone without winning a heart full of respect. The physical intimacy may be a part of loving expression but not the sole objective. Irrespective of gender, age or species, we have to have the true affection for others. And, with deep love inside your mind, you cannot nurture hatred for others.

You just care and understand others’ point of view.But it is surprising to notice people await for a day to make others feel it but fail to convey rest of the year. For, we may have never thought what kind of person do we actually deserve.

We may be waiting for a handsome macho man or a Hoor from the other world but isn't living in a dreamland where we are served what we deserve in the form of friends and well-wishers.

We need to feel his or her presence around us.You may have been spending most of your time with that special person in life but never realised it. Just think about the person who is always ready to give you and enjoys every moment spent with you. Or, think of the person who did everything but never complained to you for not respecting his or her presence around you in the past.Just think, think and rethink.

The extraordinary person of your life may be just awaiting for you. Realise and accept with open arms his or her affection and sense of care irrespective of temporary physical beauty. Just feel that ecstasy of being loved by someone truly loving instead of chasing someone who isn’t even ready to accept that you even belong to his or her personal world. Nobel Laureate Gabriel Garcia Marquez said: True Love is not blind. It sees everything, and still continues to flourish." Is it really true?

Tough times are opportunities; we realise quite late!

Tough times are the most opportune times, longed by individuals sittingidle at home. Blessed are those who have work to prove their talent at least foronce. Otherwise, there are thousands of exceptionally talented persons who remain unutilised throughout lifetime.

Interesting is the fact that once a person gets an opportunity to work at high pedestal, he or she usually turns high-headed. Not many realise that there could be unemployment days returning in life if we didn’t prepare ourselves for better challenges everyday.

But the minute the person realizes that it could actually happen causing a loss of privilege to earn or work for a meaningful purpose, the mind gets humbled. For, the truth is bitter.

Time passes on, just like it has in the past. But there are many individuals who remember that they are standing on quicksand. They care for the time being spent in frivolous arguments and remember how much big life every moment holds in it. They don’t allow things to take place just like that rather they make things happenin their lives purposefully.

“The butterfly has plenty of time because it lives by every moment not days” Nobel Laureate Rabindranath Tagore once put it like that deliberating on the preciousness of time. But are we ready to remember it or agree?

Millions of people claim they know how valuable is the time but, sadly, hardly few of them remember it while wasting it in mediocre engagements of daily life. If asked why, they would start talking about others’ idiotic tales.Why don’t we think about ourselves? Do we care how much time we often spend in what sort of affairs? Well, such questions may appear discomfortingtemporarily. But in the long run, these are the only queries that disturb us for lifetime after introspection.

Otherwise, most of us procrastinate even spending a few moments on such introspective talks or reading. Perhaps, that ’s why we lag behind from those who think about such issues years before we realise it’s too late!I think the answer lies in start doing something about it right now!

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