You Can Get A True Lover?

By Sandeep Datta, April 18 , 2006

Most of us long to find someone special who loves us in true sense. But find it a Hurculean task to locate anyone out of the huge crowd spread across world.

“I wish I had someone to express my love to”--Most of us nurture this feeling deep inside the hearts each morning, but fail to say it to the person it matters the most. At times we blame our luck or lose the option available in search for 'someone better'.

We can blame it on psychology or the intrinsic greed to get fascinated or long for someone completely unknown. But it doesn't appar to us that we have entrapped ourselves in reveries. Life may not be a plot of a novella but we usually keep on dreaming to find someone smiliar to a character read or watched on the big/small screen.

We expect someone unseen or unheard of, as is shown in almost every other Bollywood movie.But should we allow the naive feelings to contiue till our desire turns into a nightmare of lifetime? The problem is not just about finding a lover but also life partner. The feeling, the desire and the expectation remains almost the same.

Shouldn't we try to figure out that person in a calm and composed fashion through our daily life?. Well, it may appear credulous accepting this fact but the best like-minded, loving and loyal person lives very much near to our sight.

When lyricist Sahir Ludhiyanwi wrote the immortal song of the film Kabhi Kabhi, he would have never intended others to live in reveries and repent for an unfulfilled romantic dream. But most of us do so without realizing the person we long for is usually around.

We just need to learn how to recognize him or her. It may take a few mintue but try closing your eyes and recalling that face (like Aamir Khan asks Priety Zinta in Bollywood's "Dil Chahta Hai") which keeps us cheerful in daily life off and on. Just trying recalling those loving individuals who leave their indelible mark on our hearts due to their selfless role in our life.

Interestingly, most of us long for the best choice on earth but never realise the love is never about possessing someone for a momentary pleasure. It is about according the sincere appreciation, affection and respect for other individual’s presence in our lives.

To many individuals it may sound an unfair way of enjoying love. But that's what it is in reality. Otherwise, what’s the beauty of one’s love if it doesn’t evolve an urge to sacrifice the best pleasure just for someone’s sake?Or, is it simply a convenient medium to cover up one’s lustful desire?

Love is far bigger concept than possessing someone without winning a heart full of respect. The physical intimacy may be a part of loving expression but not the sole objective. Irrespective of gender, age or species, we have to have the true affection for others. And, with deep love inside your mind, you cannot nurture hatred for others.

You just care and understand others’ point of view.But it is surprising to notice people await for a day to make others feel it but fail to convey rest of the year. For, we may have never thought what kind of person do we actually deserve.

We may be waiting for a handsome macho man or a Hoor from the other world but isn't living in a dreamland where we are served what we deserve in the form of friends and well-wishers.

We need to feel his or her presence around us.You may have been spending most of your time with that special person in life but never realised it. Just think about the person who is always ready to give you and enjoys every moment spent with you. Or, think of the person who did everything but never complained to you for not respecting his or her presence around you in the past.Just think, think and rethink.

The extraordinary person of your life may be just awaiting for you. Realise and accept with open arms his or her affection and sense of care irrespective of temporary physical beauty. Just feel that ecstasy of being loved by someone truly loving instead of chasing someone who isn’t even ready to accept that you even belong to his or her personal world. Nobel Laureate Gabriel Garcia Marquez said: True Love is not blind. It sees everything, and still continues to flourish." Is it really true?