Wishing for a true lover in life?

By Sandeep Datta, April 18 , 2006

“I wish I had someone to express my love to”--Most of us nurture this feeling deep inside our hearts the moment we retire in bed or wake up long after the sunrise. Often we miserably fail to say it exactly to the person for whom it matters the most.Instead of what we have nearest to our hearts, we blame on our luck and fail to notice the gem of a person so near but so far.

We can blame it on psychology or the intrinsic greed to get fascinated or longing for someone completely unknown. Much similar to the tune of Bollywood's films of the 80's.

Doesn’t it look like expecting from life to take a shape as any fictional work does?But should our search go on till the feeling to love someone turns a nightmare of life? Or, should we learn how to find that person in our daily life?

When lyricist Sahir Ludhiyanwi wrote the immortal song of the film Kabhi Kabhi, he would have never intended others to live in reveries and repent for an unfulfilled romantic dream. But most of us do so without realizing the person we long for is usually around.

We just need to learn how to recognize him or her. All we need is to recall the presence of those loving individuals who leave their indelible mark on our hearts withe their selfless acts for us.

Interestingly, most of us long for the best choice on earth but never realise the love is never about possessing someone for a momentary pleasure. It is about according the sincere appreciation, affection and respect for other individual’s presence in our lives.

To many individuals, it may not be a fair deal. But what’s the beauty of one’s love if it doesn’t evolve an urge to sacrifice the best pleasure just for someone’s sake?

Or, is it simply a convenient medium to cover up one’s lustful desire?

Love is far bigger concept than possessing someone without winning a heart full of respect. The physical intimacy may be a part of loving expression but not the sole objective. Irrespective of gender, age or species, we have to have the true affection for others.

And, with deep love inside your mind, you cannot nurture hatred for others.You just care and understand others’ point of view.But it is surprising to notice people await for a day to make others feel it but fail to convey rest of the year.

For, we may have never thought what kind of person do we actually deserve.We may be waiting for a handsome macho man or a Hoor from the other world. But do we wish to spoil another full year with such vague thoughts. If a person already has everthing that makes a 'complete' person, do we think he or she will stop just at us?

We can do ourselves a big favour if we beging locating such a person around us. We may have spent most of our time with that loving person in daily life but we don't realise that person's worth. Why?

Just think about the person who is always ready to give you and enjoys every moment spent with you.Or, think of the person who did everything but never complained. Just think, think and rethink.

The extraordinary person for you may be just standing close to you. We need to realise the kind of individuals we actually deserve are generally around us. Most of the time, except in rare cases, we are searching for persons who are in no mood to spend even an hour in our company.
Being realisitic helps a lot.

Realise and accept with open arms that person's affection and sense of care, who is already around you. Irrespective of temporary physical beauty, enjoy that person's role in your life.

Just feel that ecstasy of being loved by someone truly loving, instead of chasing someone who is already running after someone. Who is complete in this world? There are and there will always be individuals better than you and the one who is in your life presently.

I pity those indivduals who have someone loving them by mind n' soul but still...they are looking for somebody better.

Nobel Laureate Gabriel Garcia Marquez said: True Love is not blind. It sees everything, and still continues to flourish."

I doubt if there are enough people to learn anything from such a thoughtful saying too.